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A Letter to My First Born: The One Who Made Me a Mother

As I prepare to welcome my second baby into our family, I wanted to take a moment to write a letter to my first born daughter and hope it will encourage you to do the same!

a letter to my first born daughter

A Letter to My First Born

To the little girl who stole my heart for the first time,

Growing up if anyone would ask me “What do you want to be when you grow up?” my answer would be “A teacher” and when they asked for a “Plan B” my answer would be “A Mother.” It was in me, being a mom was a part of me. I dreamed of having one child, and it being a little girl. A little girl that would be my best friend, who would trust me with the world, and would have the relationship that I have with Abuela. I dreamed of having a college degree, being married, and sharing the joy of being a parent with my husband.

On February 9th, 2015 I found out I was pregnant with you. You caught me by surprise. But now I am crying while writing this letter to my first born, aka my beautiful daughter Alyssa.

I was a sophomore in college, I wasn’t married, and although I was head over heels with your dad, we had only been dating a year and he was about to graduate. In my head, it was the wrong time. How could a child (me) take care of another child? I was pursuing my Bachelor’s and since I was only a sophomore, I had no idea what life had planned for me. In my heart? My dream was being fulfilled, life had planned for me to be a Mother. If we are honest princess.. I cried. I cried for months. I cried until I was 6 months pregnant. Why? I was scared, i was selfish, I knew I wanted to be your mother it just wasn’t the right time (in my head), I was young, I had no real career…yet. I was a college student, I was terrified of being your mama.

A blessing in disguise, thats what you were my angel.

a letter to my first born daughter
a letter to my first born daughter

On October 15, 2015 two days before my 21st birthday I welcomed you into the world. It all clicked, you were made for me, and I was made for you. You changed my life forever in the best way possible. You have not only made a mother, you have made me selfless. I love watching you grow up. The way you evolve on a daily basis, like crawling, walking, hearing you say dada, mama, and now hearing you say 3-4 word sentences. You have been the gift of a lifetime. I absolutely love hearing you say “mommy” with a smile on your face, even though you don’t need anything from me. I love spending time with you, our cuddles, your dance moves, and everything about you. You have been the most perfect addition into my life from the moment I held you in my arms, without you life would be incomplete. You complete me. You make me a better person.

Baby girl I haven’t always had the answers to everything and I will probably never have all the answers. However, if one thing is for sure you can always count on me. I may not always allow you to go out, you may not always get to sleep over your friend’s house, I may be the overbearing mom who wants to know every move you make, and we may agree to disagree on certain things or everything, however, always know that you can always count on me. Everything i do is for you.

If there is anything that I can teach you that you’ll hold on to forever, I want you to learn to always be yourself and love yourself for who you are. Birds of a feather don’t always flock together, and you should be Alyssa Simone no matter who stands beside you. Life can get ugly and it can be cruel but there is nothing in this world that can change the beautiful girl that you are. You are everything mommy and daddy have always wanted, and there is nothing about you we would change & there is nothing about you, YOU should ever want to change.

In a short 15 weeks, you’ll be a big sister to a little sister. It won’t just be me, and you (and daddy), we will be a family of four now. I want you to know that my love for you will only get stronger but it will NEVER decrease. You’ll have to share my attention, and my time, but you’ll forever be mommy’s princess and little girl. It doesn’t mean mommy loves you less. I hope that even though you don’t understand that right away, that one day you will. I can’t wait to see you be a big sister, l know you’ll love her, care for her and nurture her. You are the most caring two year old I know, and you’ll love the “baby” (as you call her).

a letter to my first born daughter


Your mama

I hope this letter to my first born inspires you to write your first born a special letter as well!

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  1. This is such a lovely, emotional, heartfelt post. I really hope in years to come, when she’s old enough to read this and understand it, it’s still on the internet for her 🙂 good luck with the rest of your pregnancy x

  2. What a sweet letter to your first daughter. I am sure she will treasure this always. Congratulations on your second on the way.

  3. What a lovely letter to your little girl! I am sure she will love to read this once she is older. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

  4. This is so sweet!! I know how you feel with soon bringing a second baby, but there will just be more love to go around and she will be a happy big sister!

  5. This is so touching and sweet! The photos are so precious. What a blessing to expand your family. Congrats and best wishes!

  6. That was a really selfless and courageous decision you made as a sophomore in college. I admire that. And that’s a really moving letter to your first born. Such a sweet post!

  7. I love reading this. It’s something she will read when she’s a grown up and it will mean so much to her. I’ve done something similar with my kids as well.

  8. I enjoyed this so much. It is beautiful how you articulated your words and were able to curate such a heartfelt post. I am sure your baby girl will love to read this when she is older especially. Wonderful writing.

  9. I loved this! Thank you so much for sharing such a sweet, tender letter. I love and affirm the writing that comes from your vulnerable youth. I don’t know you, but I can tell that you have had to grow up quickly in ways that have made you a beautiful you. Right where you are. Living the messy, wonderful motherhood journey. Congrats on baby #2. Your little #1 will always be special and now you will have the special joy of being a family filled with even more joy together.

    1. You have no idea how much your words are appreciated! It’s been a journey full of obstacles but it’s been a journey worth wild, one I would never replace 💕 thank you so much!

  10. this is beautiful, and so special and precious and my gosh it was so sweet. I can’t stop smiling over it. I need to do this with every kid i have! such a great idea!!

  11. This is so special! I absolutely love it. Now I am thinking about writing a letter to my son (first born) as he is becoming a teenager.

  12. This is so sweet! I’m sure you are an amazing mother to your baby and she will love you unconditionally as you love her!

  13. Such a beautiful letter. I love writing letters and moments to my children. I think it’s such an amazing way to capture a moment in time and make it a memory for them when they’re older. So lovely!

  14. Great words to hear from a mom like you. And it’s surprising to know that you’re going to have another girl! Congratulations! Sending hugs and kisses to all of you. Bless all your hearts.

  15. Our firstborns are so special because they teach us so much about ourselves. I am truly lucky with my firstborn – not only is he amazing company, but he’s inspirational. You’re so lucky to be blessed with your beautiful little one.